Welcome to the Subbie Union.
Submissives deserve proper treatment, and we’re going to help them get it, or end up bound and gagged for our trouble… whichever, whatever and however 
We stand for a united Submissive Solidarity in Second Life! Sisters, don’t throw off your chains!
We “Demand” more bondage for submissives! A greater voice at the negotiating tables.. unless we’re gagged
And when the revolution comes! uhm well we’ll see about that ….
Long Live President-in-Chains Lex! (the awful cute) (last notion filed under protest)
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I see there is room in the subbie union for an Evil Mistress. Is there space in the union for a gentle Master? Not that I have a ton of time to blog, it might be fun and will give Velicia more opportunity to get snarky with her Master. Plus, it’s something I can do from work.
Master Darryl
Hi
At last a place for subbies to tell all, how great is that, well really great actually.
I am new to SL and have some experiences to relate, and some moans, and groan, not muffled often enough i am sorry to say.
My question is can i post my thoughts on this really excellent blog, i would love to do so if thats okay.
Mail me please and let me know. Or IM me if thats better for you.
I suspect this is not the place to send this but you will just have to get someone to reprimand me wont you, look forward to that.
Love daisy
Just thought I’d poke my nose in here as well. It’s one of the few things I can poke with at the moment!
I share a point here , if I may, with Master D; I am out of world here or else I wouldn’t make much sense!
*Shackled hugs*
Ay
“Submissives deserve proper treatment”
You can start by dropping the diminuitive term “Subbie”. Being new to the D/s scene this one has no experience with legions of IRC chat automatons who apparently accept this idiotic term, and it brings to mind “substitute”, rather than “submissive”.
Worse yet, nicknames, ie.”Good job, Subbie (Brownie)” have become a joke for saying someone has done a good job when in fact they are incompetent. As a submissive who gets great satisfaction out of the pleasure she brings her Mistress, this one hardly considers herself incompetent.
The term is not respectful of the crucial role submissives play in the D/s relationship. If you are not going to be serious about it, then this one won’t be either.
“Being new to the D/s scene this one has no experience with legions of IRC chat automatons who apparently accept this idiotic term”
This is odd…how do you know that they use the term if you are “new” to the D/S Scene, and don’t go on IRC?
As a person new to the D/S scene, we’ll forgive you for not understanding that certain people like certain things in the scene, and that doesn’t mean that others (i.e. you) have to accept them or even like them. Some of us like being tied up for days, some get a kick from submitting to men, while others only want to submit to women. Some take D/S more or less “seriously” than the others might like. And some like the term “Subbie”…in fact, all the Unionites do, as we named the Union that, and call each other that all the time.
My point is, just because you find the term “Subbie” to be annoying, diminutive, and condescending, doesn’t mean we have to bow to any external pressure from you or others vis-a-vis what to do with our group, or what we like to be called. However, as you’re “new” to the group, and an anonymous poster here on the blog, we’ll forgive your faux pas and hope that any further comments you make will shed more light than heat.
“Worse yet, nicknames, ie.”Good job, Subbie (Brownie)” have become a joke for saying someone has done a good job when in fact they are incompetent.”
So when my Mistress calls me “girl,” she is in fact insulting me, as “girl” is diminutive, annoying and certainly condescending (I mean, if in my RL workplace, if someone called me “girl” they would be insulting me….oh, wait, *context* is important in understanding how a word is used….riiiiiggghhhttt).
By the way, I find the whole “this girl/this one” thing to be highly insulting. I think that objectifying oneself is destructive to the person and to the relationship. I would never use “this one” with my Miss, nor would I ever ask my girl to use that term.
That said, I didn’t come into your house and crap all over your floor, did I? If that’s how *you* want to self-appellate, that’s you’re business, not mine.
“As a submissive who gets great satisfaction out of the pleasure she brings her Mistress, this one hardly considers herself incompetent.”
But apparently you think you can come here and anonymously lecture us. Thanks. *snort*
“The term is not respectful of the crucial role submissives play in the D/s relationship. If you are not going to be serious about it, then this one won’t be either.”
If *you* don’t want to be called “subbie” then by all means you shouldn’t be. Make sure your Mistress uses whatever term you prefer. But if you don’t think we’re “serious” about our expression of d/s, you shouldn’t hang around here. I’m sure there are places in SL where you can make virtual cuckoo clocks or pass the time idylly in the grass, waiting for your Miss to come on so you can serve her most seriously. We’ll just putt about and bemoan the fact we aren’t on the same level of d/s that a self-admitted rank newbie is.
*Sigh*
–V
As you are new to the D/s scene, the first thing I recommend you do, Miss Anonymous, is drop the pretentious snobbery. There are many ways of experiencing a D/s relationship, and it’s not up to you to decide what the “correct” way of doing it is. That’s up to the individual relationships.
Actually, the term does not originate from IRC, chat rooms, or where ever. I first heard the term at a (real life) munch. Sure people use it, Dom/mes and submissives alike. Some don’t.
You can start by dropping the diminuitive term “Subbie”.
Well, considering it’s “just” the name of the blog, I don’t really see a reason to do this. Other than one other occasion and one comment, the term subbie is not really used in the blog postings by me and the others. So .. no. I am not going to drop the name nor the blog.
and it brings to mind “substitute”, rather than “submissive”.
I am rather confident that if you ask anyone in the bdsm-scene, about the term subbie, they usually will know you mean a submissive instead of a substitute. As Vanni pointed out, context does count.
And, the term “subbie” is just a word. What matters is the connection the word implies. For you it may be a negative connection. For a lot of others that I know, myself included it isn’t.
As your experience in BDSM and D/s relations grows, you’ll will learn that there is no one ‘twue’ way in how to do things. As Velicia remarked it’s pretty much an individual thing, down to the participants in the relationship.
If you don’t like it. Move along. There are many other websites dealing with this subject. If not, I do hope you have the capacity to look beyond merely a name, and enjoy the writings.
Lex
As someone who a) has spent almost a decade in the IRC chatrooms and associating with the “legions of IRC chat automatons”, and b) who has lived with her Master for more than 5 years, and spent almost a decade in the RT scene.. i do actually understand why you dislike the term “subbie”. You’re not the first to have objections to the term, and you won’t be the last, and your arguments against it are reasonable.
What isn’t reasonable however, is the way in which you’ve come into someone else’s space and thrown a hissy fit worthy of a five year old. Maybe you should think about exactly how you’re representing your Mistress, in having a spat like this. Understand that people all over the world, both RT and online (IRC *and* Second Life) approach BDSM with varying degrees of seriousness, and that often, people interject their lifestyle dealings with a degree of humour – that doesn’t necessarily follow that those same people don’t take D/s seriously or are just playing at it.
And finally, as my Master is *so* fond of saying: “to assume is to make an Ass out of U and ME”, and one i think perhaps you would do well to remember.
There’s room out on this big wide internet for everyone. Learn to give those you disagree with their space, you have yours, and you’ll find your passage through IRC, Second Life, and indeed, Life in general, much easier, and who knows. maybe one day you might even learn from one of those IRC automatons!
“What isn’t reasonable however, is the way in which you’ve come into someone else’s space and thrown a hissy fit worthy of a five year old.”
Exactly, thank you Elessandra. Had Miss Anonymous come with a positive attitude, such as “I’d like to discuss this term ’subbie,’ I find it diminutive and to some degree offensive and I was wondering if anyone else felt that way about it? Let me tell you why I feel this way….” she would have found people who were willing to discuss things reasonably with her. Instead she came in, crapped all over the floor, and actually demanded that we were supposed to take that seriously.
I notice she didn’t come back…we’re obviously far too “non-serious” for her.
-V
bonjour
bravo pour ce blog, toute nouvelle dans le BDSM, j’en suis encore à rechercher ma voie et ma maitresse/maitre. Je ne désespère pas de trouver celle ou celui qui saura me conduire me guider. restons solidaire et partageons afin d’avancer sur ce chemin qui est le notre, celui que j’ai choisi.
helene
hello
bravo for this blog, brand new in the BDSM, I am yet to find my way and my mistress / master. I do not despair of finding one or the one that will lead me guide me. remain united and to share progress on this path that is ours, the one I chose.
helene
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